Words for Junk (for Sex Educators!) What do you call yours?

Something is on my mind. Genitals! (and the language we use for them). The UK Sexological Bodywork training is working hard to improve their language and inclusivity around many intersecting identities. A central one is gender diversity; the subjects of bodies, arousal, sexual attraction and anatomy are so heavily gendered. Somatic Sex Education and Sexological Bodywork should be embracing to

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Three good things in a bed? A coaching session on the topic of threesomes

I feel I have arrived! Everyone’s definition of personal success is individual to them and I imagine not many people would define it as getting paid to coach someone in how to negotiate a threesome! That is what happened tonight. A regular online coaching client got in touch to ask if I could have a conversation with him about his

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10 steps I take to create a ‘safer’ workshop experience

People talk to me after workshops, or they fill in feedback forms. One thing they often say is ‘I’ve been to things like this before, and they didn’t feel safe, but this did!’ I have had a think about the ingredients that make a safe(r) space for people to explore touch, intimacy, boundaries and consent. See my 10 steps below.

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5 of my biggest take-aways from Betty Martin ‘Like a Pro’ training

I recently spent 5 days training in the amazing Betty Martin Wheel of Consent. Betty is a fantastic Sexuality and Intimacy Coach who has developed this great wheel. For more information, you can visit http://schoolofconsent.org/downloads/ for lots of generously provided, free resources. Here is a quick thought for each day of the training and details of a short group I

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Holding embodied consent workshops for the next generation

The past 3 weeks, I have met 225 young people aged 16-17 to deliver a total of 9 1-hour Embodied Consent workshops. The ‘Embodied’ bit means we aren’t sitting in front of a PowerPoint presentation, and we aren’t watching the ‘Consent=Cup of Tea’ video on YouTube. Yes, I got them walking around the space, making eye contact with their peers,

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Why I went to Brighton Trans Pride with my Sex hat on?

5000 people are estimated to have attended Trans Pride march and gathering in Brighton last Saturday. I was one of them. The protest call of the day was: Trans Rights are Human Rights. Non-binary is valid. Trans men are men. Trans women are women. I was on the march, shouting this with everyone else. I also handed out 200 flyers

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Why genital massage should be on the (adult) National Curriculum

Many sexually active adults have never experienced being touched intimately with massage or in a mindful ‘massage style’. There are many reasons why genital massage should be a ‘thing’ that is recognised and taught in way more places. Here are just a few; We can DIY We can self-massage our genitals just as we can self-massage our shoulders or feet

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Valuable screen time; Realising the value of Somatic Sex Coaching

Somatic Sex Coaching – When I first certified as a Sexological Bodyworker, I was very orientated towards face to face work, in real time, where I could use the full range of exercises and body based tools I had learnt. If someone contacted me from an unreachable city, I would try to work out how I could get them to

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6 ways Somatic Sex Coaching can help a couple

6 ways Somatic Sex Coaching can help a couple. I have had a small but significant influx of couples recently, and many other enquiries are from individuals who are part of a couple, wanting help with something that’s gone quiet or bumpy between them. The issues range from; – Loss of sexual and sensual connection – Low libido, loss of

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11 ways Sexological Bodywork is useful for trans people!

  Few people in the general population have heard of Sexological Bodywork. It is likely that more are familiar with the related practices of Tantra, Erotic Massage or conscious kink. The modality is exciting and pioneering and becoming increasingly recognised around the world. I am a Certified Sexological Bodyworker (CSB), and I also work with trans young people, am involved

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