Why I went to Brighton Trans Pride with my Sex hat on?
5000 people are estimated to have attended Trans Pride march and gathering in Brighton last Saturday. I was one of them.
The protest call of the day was:
- Trans Rights are Human Rights.
- Non-binary is valid.
- Trans men are men.
- Trans women are women.
I was on the march, shouting this with everyone else. I also handed out 200 flyers and got chatting to a few enthusiastic folk about what I offer. There was interest in ScarWork ® and in my Quintimacy Series community workshops and what exactly happens in my one to one sessions. Whether that is online coaching or talking and somatic sessions or extended bodywork. A sentence I heard a lot ‘Do you work in Brighton?’ (something to think about).
It was great to have these conversations with people and put the Right to Pleasure and the Right to Sex Education onto the agenda for a group that miss out even more than the general population.
I do believe the right to pleasure and sex education is a human right. The World Health Organisation definition of sexual health mentions the word pleasurable and safe, and it applies to every one of our world’s citizens, not only to cis and heterosexual people.
Sexual health is a state of physical, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality. It requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Brighton Trans Pride
As Queer and Trans including Non binary people, the messages we receive about our bodies and the sex we have is pathologising and loaded with fear, negativity, myths and misconceptions. Unfortunately, often when gender diverse people seek support with sexual issues, they receive an unhelpful response from counsellors and other professionals, who lack training and understanding of gender and sexual diversity. Often these professionals have not examined their own perceptions and baggage about the subject of sex. There is a long way to go. I created this guide to inform holistic practitioners and massage therapists on how to improve their services for trans people PDF Download. For counsellors and psychotherapists, Meg John Barker created this fantastic resource, BACP Gender Sexual Relationship Diversity PDF
Somatic Sex Education and Sexological Bodywork
I believe that (trans aware) Somatic Sex Education and Sexological Bodywork has a lot to offer trans people (see 11 ways Sexological Bodywork is useful for trans people!), but raising awareness of these resources and practitioners can be a challenge.
Sex is still something that people don’t want to talk about, and professional services which involve touch and bodywork can be touched by anti sex-work stigma too. There are places these conversations just aren’t ‘allowed’.
So that’s why I was at Brighton Trans Pride, to have a little impact on that, and hopefully at least a handful of people will benefit …from the thought that ‘Oh, my pleasure is important’, or ‘Maybe there IS someone who can help me with this’ or ‘I would never have considered talking to a Sex Coach, but here is one who tailors their services to people like me!’
Lots of Body Curious people! So, to all that were present, and those who could not be, Happy Trans Pride!
If you are interested in exploring what Sex coaching and Bodywork could offer you, whatever your gender or sexuality, you can email me on firstname.lastname@example.org.
Thanks for reading,